By Marie Roker
Are you consistently chasing success? Once you achieve it, do
you desperately try to continue the pattern of making it
again? Isn't it time you got off the success-go-round? Here
8 tips to help you make the transition from inconsistency to
steady flow of success.
1. Know Your Core Values.
What do your truly value in your life? If you're struggling to
come up with an answer, then maybe it's time you reevaluated
your values. You might know what values your parents instilled
in you, but you need to be clear on what you stand for and
is important in your life. Do you value honesty, integrity or
trust? By knowing your core values you will seek them in the
relationships you form with others. List your top five core
values and live by them. Start to examine if your core values
match the goals you are trying to achieve. Your values are
essential to success.
2. Be Honest With Yourself.
Don't kid yourself about who you are or what you love to do.
you're trying to impress or win the approval of others by
successful, you success will be unauthentic. Is the "real" you
showing up everyday? It is empowering to some to have a great
job title or a prospering business, but if at the end of the
day, you feel empty, tired or dissatisfied; it's time to be
honest with yourself. You can't present yourself as someone in
control at work, when you know deep inside you feel that you
have no control over your life. Success is only temporary when
you are not living a self-actualized life. Passion for your
life and your work makes you thrive. Only when you are honest
with yourself about who you are and what you really love to do
can you start to experience a steady flow of success.
3. Don't Let Your Emotions Run the Show. If you’re happy when
life is great and going as planned, but fall apart when you
faced with challenges and obstacles, you allow your emotions
run the show. If people can clearly tell when things are not
going well for you, it's time to get your emotions in check.
Life is not predictable. Plans will not always run as smoothly
as expected, but it is important that you maintain your
composure during these times. Don't let your beliefs have
over the situation. If you allow sadness, anger or fear to
over, you will find it more difficult each time to bounce back
after a set-back. Get to know your emotional triggers; what
makes you angry, sad or afraid and then create a plan for
coping with them when they arise.
4. Be Flexible With Your Plans.
Being too rigid and unwavering with plans can lead to
disappointment. While setting plans and goals are ideal for
making success happen, you have to accept that sometimes you
may have to alter those plans. It's a good idea to have a
back-up just in case things don't go the way you expected.
Don't allow minor setbacks to make you cancel your plans
altogether, but have faith that you will find another way to
get things done. Take detours if it is necessary. Be open to
ideas and suggestions from those you trust. You will find
another way if you are willing to receive what is being
5. Don't Let Success Be the Center of Your Life.
Success should not be at the center of your life. There are
many more important things that you need to tend you. When you
neglect or postpone what is important in your life, you will
find that you are chasing success just to have more time, more
energy and more money to enjoy life. It doesn’t happen that
way. Set aside time to work on your career goals, business
plan, life plan, etc, then continue with our life. If you're
always on the look-out for success, it will rarely come. Have
you heard the expression: "A watched phone never rings.”? Be
patient and don't try to rush success. Learn to let go and you
will see a transformation in yourself and your success plans.
6. Share What You Know or What You Have.
If you have a grip hold on success, but are not willing to
share your knowledge, your time or your resources, chances are
success will break free from you. Give of yourself and you
always be given. Don't be afraid to share your knowledge even
with a competitor because it the long run, you will benefit
more from it. Volunteer, if you have the time.
7. Ask for What You Want and Believe You Will Receive It.
Do you state clearly your goals or desires? Depending on your
faith or religious affiliation, pray, meditate and ask for
you want. Once you get it, don't stop asking. We often make
mistake of asking for what we want and then we either give up
because it hasn't come in our anticipated time or we stop
asking because we got what we wanted. You should never stop
asking, because you are only halfway. When you stop asking you
don't allow more blessings to come into your life. If you only
ask periodically or when things are going bad, then you are
asking out of desperation. Ask continuously, and ask with the
conviction that it will come to realization.
8. Stay in the Success Momentum.
The best way to keep from sabotaging your success is to stay
the success mindset. Giving in to financial or career blues
deter you from your goals. Keep away from people or situations
that sap your energy or keep you stuck. Build a network of
people that will challenge, support and motivate you when your
outlook becomes distorted. Develop strategies that will help
you to deal with rejections, disappointments and regrets.
Lighten up and know don't be yourself up for every little
mistake you make. Take charge of all your trying situations
know that "this too shall pass."
About The Author: Marie Magdala Roker is a Personal
Coach an Author of Successful Thinking for a Successful Life:
How to Banish the Unhealthy Thoughts and Habits That Limit
Success. Her Successful Thinking™ program is an affordable
coaching resource that offers support and encouragement when
there are roadblocks to success. You can find out more about
the program at www.thinkandbesuccessful.com or sign up
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