By John Hooper
Getting over your ex is something that most of us have to do at some point in our life. Some people more than others. When the ex means a divorce in involved then the break up is all the more harder.
It is said that time is a great healer and that is true, but also taking action is vital. Just what action should you take?
Here is some practical advice to deal with life after a break up, relationship break down or divorce.
1. Make a clean break. As tempting as it can be, if you are still in love with your EX, and they don't reciprocate the feelings and intensity, then you're better off making a clean break. This is true every time. Ex lover rarely make good friends after a break up.
2. Delete all telephone numbers, email address and the like that contain your exís details. Keeping temptation at bay is vital.
3. Clear out as many personal items as you can. Obviously keeping practical stuff is important, but, if youíre using your exís left behind items to remember them, then thatís no good. Clear them out as soon as possible.
4. Treat yourself. Make sure you get used to enjoying yourself without your ex partner. Prove to yourself, your ex and others that you can smile again in spite of the circumstances. A divorce doesnít mean you canít laugh a lot.
5. Let your frustrations, anger and bitterness come out. Write down your feeling or get some counselling. Even if itís just a friend who will listen to you for a while. Blow off steam Ė itís natural.
6. Cleanse your current situation by buying new things for the house. New bedding and kitchen utensils are something you use every day. Get new items. Your life is still going to go on so distance yourself from the things you used with your ex. It will work wonders for you.
7. Give yourself time to heal. You donít need to rush into a new relationship until your ready. Advice given to me as I was going through my divorce was to Ďclear the decks emotionally.í Superb advice, you donít need to rebound till its right for you.
8. Eliminate any negative self-talk. Itís easy to feel sorry for yourself after a break up. It can help you only for a very short while at the beginning. If you keep talking yourself down then youíll find it harder to move on when the time is right for you.
9. Take charge of your life again. Make goals. Set yourself challenges. Maybe you always wanted to abseil or jump from a plane. Maybe learning yoga could be right for you. The world is your oyster.
10. Take comfort in the fact that it does get better each day. Say to yourself Ďevery day in every way Iím getting better and better and better.í Itís true and most people who have been divorced will tell you that suddenly one day you realise that the rest of your life can easily be the best of your life.
About The Author
John Hooper has been through a divorce and has since become an authorised, fully trained and certified counsellor. His advice has helped many hundreds of individuals and couples get over difficult times in their lives. John advice is simple to understand and implement. John is an author and writes for the popular relationship advice web site www.getoverher.info.