By Sarah Veda
New mothers get a ton of advice. Total strangers will walk up
to you and give you their opinions on how to get rid of that
cradle cap. Your mother-in-law will look at you with
disapproving eyes and tell you that she had your husband
sleeping through the night when he was two weeks old. Your
door neighbor will have an amusing anecdote about how a
of Jack Daniels absolutely cured her kidsí teething issues.
Donít despair. It wonít last forever. And, there are days, Iím
sure, when you would welcome some good advice. But how do you
sort out the good advice from the, well, crap? Itís not easy,
let me tell you. But, here are a couple of good places to go
when youíre in need of help.
First of all, before you take advice from someone, consider
what kind of mother you think they are, or were. If your
girlfriend is the best mom you know, and she has considerably
more experience than you, then her advice is probably going to
be helpful. But, if your neighborís kids grew up to be
alcoholics, her advice about the Jack Daniels on the gums
be circumspect. You see where Iím going with this. The advice
only good advice for you if you really feel comfortable using
the technique on your baby. Every baby is different, and so is
every Mom, so the advice is not one size fits all.
In addition to a Mom whom you trust, your pediatrician is a
good person to ask for advice. When I was a first time Mom, I
called my pediatricianís office three times a week for some
sort of help, and they never once acted like I was a pain in
the neck, even though Iím quite certain that I must have been.
They can help you with all sorts of questions, and they can
help reassure you that everything is ok, which, sometimes is
all you need.
Another good source of advice is baby care books and websites.
Many of the most common questions are answered in these
formats, and they are available whenever you need them.
Finally, trust your instincts. Even if youíre a first time
you probably know whatĎs best for your baby, because you know
your baby best. A little advice never hurt anybody, but a
little faith in yourself works wonders, too.
About The Author: Sarah is a 41 year old wife and mother of
boys and one girl. She spent many years as a manager in the
corporate world, and gave it up to be a stay at home mom. Go
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