By Adwina Jackson
How do I feel about my childís separation anxiety? Honestly,
itís absolutely one of the most delightful feelings I really
enjoy as a mom.
I remember when my son was between 8-9 months old. Just like
every mother, I couldnít forget those moments.
At that time, he often asked for more attention from me rather
than from anybody in the house. No matter where he was or who
was holding him, as soon as he saw me, he suddenly cried as if
he was asking me to hold him.
When I came close to him, he abruptly opened his arms and
looked so happy. His cry stopped in a moment. It was truly an
unspoken feeling I had experienced.
But there was also time when he acted differently from what I
had expected. When I went for work, I thought he would cry
to see me leaving him. I hugged him tight and kissed his face
again and again.
I told him, ďBaby, Mommy have to go to work now. Eat and drink
a lot, okay? And have a good nap. Iíll be back. Love you much.
Sometimes he kept looking at me when I said so. I expected him
to start weeping. But it didnít happen. I wondered why. I
out later that he was interested with the wheels of the car I
traveled in everyday.
Whenever the car started to run, my son always kept his eyes
the wheels. Looking at them spinning must have been very
exciting to him. I just smiled, though my heart broke a
I soothed myself by thinking that it was good for him being
curious of strange things.
My son is a baby who has sleeping problem. Throughout the
during his sleep, he often woke up several times. If he woke
and didnít find me nearby, he would cry out loud, making the
whole house panic as if something really bad happen.
When I got into the bedroom, he would crawl toward me, and
I hugged him. Heíd be calm afterward. Breastfeeding really
worked to put him back to sleep.
Thank God I decided to breastfeed him so that I wouldnít be
engaged with the rush of preparing formula during the night.
Yes, I chose to breastfeed him in nighttimes, even though he
still got formula in day times.
Maybe this breastfeeding activity had created the bond between
us. I enjoyed it, and still until now. This might also what
made my son didnít want to stay away from me.
If your baby or child has the same characteristic as my son
has, Iím sure you have the same feeling as I do. If you think
that your babyís cry (for being away from you) annoy you, just
remember that it wonít last forever.
Separation anxiety is a phase in your childís development
during his early years of life. Almost all children go through
this experience. What I can suggest you is just enjoy these
intimate moments before theyíre gone along with your childís
>From what Iíve heard from my friends about this, youíre gonna
miss the moments. To me, even now, I really donít want the
phase fade away.
Wait, wait. Thereís one more thing Iíd like to share with you,
which you may not think will make your child comfortable. I
remember my friend told me that if youíre going somewhere,
donít forget to tell your child that youíll be back. Instead
sneaking out of the house, waving your hand and saying that
youíll be back will soothe him somehow.
About The Author: Adwina Jackson is a wife and mother of a
young boy. She's also the editor of Inspiring Parenting, an
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